tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86563362162856229.post8623960943334619300..comments2024-03-11T18:20:02.120-05:00Comments on crumbs from His table: When the Honeycomb Words Won't Sticktinuvielhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06462001159262770932noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86563362162856229.post-395912862254782732011-06-20T15:42:11.695-05:002011-06-20T15:42:11.695-05:00@Andrea Thank you for following Ann's link and...@<a href="#c1353764333876496181" rel="nofollow">Andrea</a> Thank you for following Ann's link and for your generous comments! You are spot on about the neural pathways. That's exactly the science I tried to capture in the trench image.<br /><br />I'm glad you have a Bible study group where you can grow and be transformed in community. The materials you mention are new to me, but I appreciate the links.<br /><br />Grace and peace to you in Christ!tinuvielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06462001159262770932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86563362162856229.post-13537643338764961812011-06-20T13:17:43.557-05:002011-06-20T13:17:43.557-05:00What a treasure your post is! Referred to you via ...What a treasure your post is! Referred to you via Ann Voskamp. I'm on the same journey..getting out of old hurtful and dysfunctional ruts...or as the brain scientists say...creating NEW neural pathways to replace the old lies. I'll share a couple of resources which have been heart and life changing for me and my Bible study group of Oatmeal Girls (we share breakfast as we study!). First is all the works/books/teachings of Dr. David Eckman at www.whatgodintended.com Second is a 22 week deep discipleship process which grew out of Eckman's work called www.AphesisGroup.com<br />May you all be blessed today by A greater awareness of your heavenly Father's deep love and utter delight in Y-O-U!Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10407045587461896172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86563362162856229.post-73316736734135157382011-06-17T10:51:28.867-05:002011-06-17T10:51:28.867-05:00@L.A. Krueger You're welcome, Laure. Of course...@<a href="#c8169353813470162838" rel="nofollow">L.A. Krueger</a> You're welcome, Laure. Of course you may write to me. My e-mail address is on the contact page for anyone who wishes to use it.tinuvielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06462001159262770932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86563362162856229.post-81693538134701628382011-06-17T10:11:44.386-05:002011-06-17T10:11:44.386-05:00Hi Tinuviel.
This was a timely read for me. Than...Hi Tinuviel.<br /><br />This was a timely read for me. Thank you.<br /><br />May I email you about something pertaining to this subject? My email is laure.krueger@gmail.comLaurie A.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11835435551938917829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86563362162856229.post-61689489391969582932011-06-16T12:25:59.842-05:002011-06-16T12:25:59.842-05:00@withgraceandgratitude While I don't remember ...@<a href="#c4895875626009941657" rel="nofollow">withgraceandgratitude</a> While I don't remember being given a chant to say, my elementary teachers also talked about warm fuzzies and cold pricklies. :) Thank you for reading and taking time to share your thoughts. Grace and peace to you in Jesus!tinuvielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06462001159262770932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86563362162856229.post-48958756260099416572011-06-16T10:23:10.703-05:002011-06-16T10:23:10.703-05:00I remember in 1st grade (back in the mid-70s) bein...I remember in 1st grade (back in the mid-70s) being taught about "warm fuzzies" and "cold pricklies". We had a little chant to say in front of the mirror each morning: "Today I'm okay and so are they, today I'm a prinz and so are they. Today I will give 10 warm fuzzies away. Today is now. Today I'm okay." <br /><br />A prinz was probably a play on "prince" that indicated we were all people of value. And a warm fuzzy was any kind of compliment or helpfulness or kindness we could show someone else.<br /><br />What a gift it was to teach children in such a simple and memorable way a basic understanding of the Golden Rule and to encourage its practice. Thanks for such and encouraging post!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86563362162856229.post-28300663906715017762011-06-16T09:39:52.516-05:002011-06-16T09:39:52.516-05:00@ruthkaup Thank you, Ruth, for reading and for you...@<a href="#c1492744120479603233" rel="nofollow">ruthkaup</a> Thank you, Ruth, for reading and for your empathy and encouragement.<br /><br />I'm sorry you experienced some of the same taunts, but thank God for pouring His light and truth into your life, as well.<br /><br />(Really, I fully realize that I got off quite lightly compared to the real abuse suffered by so many. That humbles and gives one pause.)<br /><br />May God go before your day, as well!tinuvielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06462001159262770932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86563362162856229.post-14927441204796032332011-06-16T09:14:22.067-05:002011-06-16T09:14:22.067-05:00What a raw post! You brought tears to my eyes, as...What a raw post! You brought tears to my eyes, as I experienced some of the taunts you mentioned. Thank you for opening up your heart! God is not the father of those lies. The enemy, or the devil, is the author. <br />Thank you also for your visit earlier to my blog. May God go before your day!<br />Only because of Him, <br />RuthAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86563362162856229.post-64279956896563822832011-06-15T16:24:55.879-05:002011-06-15T16:24:55.879-05:00@bluecottonmemory I'm so sorry you had those s...@<a href="#c8782142085719385527" rel="nofollow">bluecottonmemory</a> I'm so sorry you had those same things said about you and grew up without those father-words. Truly I am. My parents loved me and spoke words of blessing to me (and fixed my teeth), so I can't even imagine how much harder it would be without that.<br /><br />God's grace is amazing and so personal. Praise to Him for bringing you and your husband mentors to heal those wounds.<br /><br />Thank you for your honest comment and sharing additional resources where you have found help.<br /><br />May your heavenly Father continue to pour His balm and comfort into your heart.tinuvielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06462001159262770932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86563362162856229.post-90472105781106911772011-06-15T16:16:32.203-05:002011-06-15T16:16:32.203-05:00@Craig Thank the Lord that this gave you some help...@<a href="#c8393117248569807674" rel="nofollow">Craig</a> Thank the Lord that this gave you some help and encouragement. I hope you read the comment preceding yours; there were some additional thoughts you may find helpful.<br /><br />The question felt more serious to me than perhaps it was meant, and that is such a common struggle. Thank you for prodding me to consider it more deeply.tinuvielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06462001159262770932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86563362162856229.post-34949230261076588412011-06-15T16:12:50.801-05:002011-06-15T16:12:50.801-05:00@chris Thank you for making that connection. Yes, ...@<a href="#c7734640802154037594" rel="nofollow">chris</a> Thank you for making that connection. Yes, it was. There seemed to be a lot of pain behind the question, and it felt important to take that seriously.<br /><br />Thank you also for your thoughtful, insightful comment...just so many lovely bits...thank you.<br /><br />Your analysis of the feelings of "someone in the grip of self-hatred" and the solution thereto is particularly helpful. I considered addressing that at least to say I am not qualified to address it. Your paragraph is so well-done, however, perhaps I will add a post script encouraging future readers please to read the comments.<br /><br />If that has been your experience in the recent past, I'm very sorry but give thanks you have received enough healing to express truth as you do here.<br /><br />You're very welcome. Grace and deep peace to you in Christ Jesus!tinuvielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06462001159262770932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86563362162856229.post-13509734245859301962011-06-15T16:03:41.674-05:002011-06-15T16:03:41.674-05:00@Lisa notes... You're welcome! June Hunt is a ...@<a href="#c265573103043976547" rel="nofollow">Lisa notes...</a> You're welcome! June Hunt is a biblical counselor and radio host who works in Dallas, so she may be better known here. Beth Moore most likely needs no introduction; I found this new book very helpful last summer. My local library offered that one.<br /><br />Let me know what you think!tinuvielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06462001159262770932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86563362162856229.post-87821420857193855272011-06-15T15:11:14.882-05:002011-06-15T15:11:14.882-05:00I had those same things said about me growing up. ...I had those same things said about me growing up. It is hard to believe you are beautiful either inside or out when you hear those opposite words. 3 things changed my perspective about myself: Psalm 139, Don and Katie Fortune's book, "Discover your Spiritual Gifts" (where I started to understand my giftings weren't handicaps), and to see myself how God sees me. I always had a difficult time accepting kind words - when my spiritual parents at church said, "(Husband's name), have you told your wife how lovely she looks today. Maryleigh, you look lovely today." I'd never had father-words like that in my life - but God had been planting seeds, teaching me to see myself as He sees me, and I had a choice. I smile, and just beamed, "Thank you, Everett" (He was a retired minister who had taken us under their wing). I caught those Father-Words and held them close. Your post echoed the struggles of my heart! It is such a blessing post of hope and faith! Thank you:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86563362162856229.post-83931172485698076742011-06-15T13:08:17.861-05:002011-06-15T13:08:17.861-05:00and who was that reader who asked the question? (r...and who was that reader who asked the question? (raises hand)<br /><br />This was 3748 shades of brilliant! Some of it I'm going to steal – as I continue to write on my blog about love declaring war against the negative voices. If only I knew someone's name – I could give them proper credit when I steal from them :-) I read this all, I read it slowly, I took some notes, and I think it's really nice that you took the time to answer just a casual question with such a thoughtful post. Thank you. And God bless you.Craighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08376005422623882947noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86563362162856229.post-77346408021540375942011-06-15T12:33:13.778-05:002011-06-15T12:33:13.778-05:00this post is so visibly the result of the thinking...this post is so visibly the result of the thinking and praying you said you in your earlier post you were going to do before answering your reader's question...<br /><br />first, it was brave and kind to talk about your own experiences, rather than keeping the discussion on a general level. brave, for obvious reasons; kind, because it shows solidarity with readers who have at one time or another struggled to not lose sight of the truth, and fall for the lies (which is to say, just about all of us).<br /><br />i'm really sorry about some of the things that happened to you (especially as a child), and thankful that you are nevertheless as you are! in particular,i'm thankful that, in spite of your avowed tendency to "deflect compliments" (and no, you're not the only one who does that) when your doctor complemented you on all your efforts, you "basked" in that complement in a very healthy way. (oddly enough, this struck me as very healthy when i read your first post: i remember thinking then that in similar circumstances, i might well have (in thought, if not out loud) deflected the kind words.)<br /><br />your advice to fellow strugglers is deeply helpful. the only thing i'd add is that i think some bits of it can only be put in practice by someone who is already partly free of the lies you describe. i think that someone in the grip of self-hatred may find themselves unable to, as you put it, "reject the thoughts as the lies they are", and *choose* to believe and act on the truth rather the lies (even when they read the truth in Scripture, and know at an intellectual level that it is the truth). someone in the grip of self-hatred may see that they shouldn't withdraw from Christian community (this may be just one more thing they are beating themselves up about), and yet be unable to be a genuinely engaged member of that community. when we find ourselves in this plight, i guess, all we can do is cry out to God: i'm broken; even if i acknowledge the truth intellectually, i can't see it "with the eyes of my heart", and act on it. please fix me! <br /><br />thanks so much again for the post...<br /><br />love,<br /><br />chrischrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16673834639722877016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86563362162856229.post-2655731030439765472011-06-15T11:52:14.870-05:002011-06-15T11:52:14.870-05:00Trying to ruminate on God’s truths today. Thanks f...Trying to ruminate on God’s truths today. Thanks for such an insightful post. When my husband tells me I’m beautiful, I often think, “He can’t really mean that! I have a mirror. I see what I look like.” So when God tells me he loves me, am I responding the same to him too? <br /><br />You mentioned two of my favorite resources: Search for Significance and Lies Women Believe. I’ll need to look into the others now…. Thank you!Lisa notes...https://www.blogger.com/profile/07103364395238899215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86563362162856229.post-5424983305906496432011-06-15T10:18:05.066-05:002011-06-15T10:18:05.066-05:00@Amy Thank you, friend. :)@<a href="#c1939526237350559000" rel="nofollow">Amy</a> Thank you, friend. :)tinuvielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06462001159262770932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86563362162856229.post-19395262373505590002011-06-15T07:28:51.323-05:002011-06-15T07:28:51.323-05:00Full of truth. I'll be rereading this because ...Full of truth. I'll be rereading this because it's so full of good. Those damaging ruts are powerful, but not as powerful as the Truth of God. btw, you are beautiful!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04886843349775095643noreply@blogger.com